❤️ Thank you for sharing. I love your unassuming ability to hold the world together (which is much different than the group mother vibe, and I didnt know these qualities could be separate from each other) but yeah, it is hard to see you in pain and not quite know what to do (though you do hide your pain well! I wonder if it escapes most people 🤔).
I just want to say that the ability to delegate is a skill (an executive functioning one at that!). Being able to do what needs to be done is one thing, but being able to see what needs to be done, how, and when, then tell someone is quite another. (And let's be honest, following up, managing their insecurities about doing it, and helping them unfuck it up are also part of the job.)
I think that especially with your people, it takes two (or three 🥰), one with an ability to delegate, and another with the ability to take instructions and create their role with it, so the how, when, and follow up is co-created. Like horse peope, if you know horse people. It's taken me a while, but I think I'm getting it. I look forward to going forward with you ❤️
Be well through the surgery, and if you need anything, just ask *cheeky tone.* Not to get too emotiony, but I love you, friend!
Thank you so much for the kind, encouraging words. I love you, too, and I am so glad to have you and Leslie with me on this journey. The two of you really are amazing women, and I absolutely treasure you both.
I do know horse people! I was horse people for a long time, though I haven't had the ability to go riding or to a barn in a long while. Horses have been my solace for many, many years of my life. They were my friends when I was alone, my support system when things were bad, and my confidants when I needed someone. Horses are magic.
And yeah, I guess I hadn't considered delegation a different task in the executive function tree. It makes sense when you put it that way. Your description of the pieces of it makes a lot of sense to me, and I appreciate the insight so much!
As a general rule, when I am in pain, I turtle. I often get hyper self-reliant and quiet because that's just how my brain works. I don't expect others to know what to do when I'm in that state, and often knowing that someone sees and cares about me provides a lot more comfort than it might seem like it would. <3
❤️ Thank you for sharing. I love your unassuming ability to hold the world together (which is much different than the group mother vibe, and I didnt know these qualities could be separate from each other) but yeah, it is hard to see you in pain and not quite know what to do (though you do hide your pain well! I wonder if it escapes most people 🤔).
I just want to say that the ability to delegate is a skill (an executive functioning one at that!). Being able to do what needs to be done is one thing, but being able to see what needs to be done, how, and when, then tell someone is quite another. (And let's be honest, following up, managing their insecurities about doing it, and helping them unfuck it up are also part of the job.)
I think that especially with your people, it takes two (or three 🥰), one with an ability to delegate, and another with the ability to take instructions and create their role with it, so the how, when, and follow up is co-created. Like horse peope, if you know horse people. It's taken me a while, but I think I'm getting it. I look forward to going forward with you ❤️
Be well through the surgery, and if you need anything, just ask *cheeky tone.* Not to get too emotiony, but I love you, friend!
Thank you so much for the kind, encouraging words. I love you, too, and I am so glad to have you and Leslie with me on this journey. The two of you really are amazing women, and I absolutely treasure you both.
I do know horse people! I was horse people for a long time, though I haven't had the ability to go riding or to a barn in a long while. Horses have been my solace for many, many years of my life. They were my friends when I was alone, my support system when things were bad, and my confidants when I needed someone. Horses are magic.
And yeah, I guess I hadn't considered delegation a different task in the executive function tree. It makes sense when you put it that way. Your description of the pieces of it makes a lot of sense to me, and I appreciate the insight so much!
As a general rule, when I am in pain, I turtle. I often get hyper self-reliant and quiet because that's just how my brain works. I don't expect others to know what to do when I'm in that state, and often knowing that someone sees and cares about me provides a lot more comfort than it might seem like it would. <3